T is for Teaching – Preparing for a Badass Retirement #AtoZChallenge

T is for Teaching

I have been heard to say (loudly and vehemently) that now that I was done with my MBA, you would never find me in school again. Unless it was for a totally fun class, like say quilting or watercolour painting.

But what if I went back – not as a student – but as a teacher?

I do have a Bachelor of Education in Adult Education degree as well as a Science degree – pursued and achieved because at one point in my career I was put in charge of training at a large (125+ souls) laboratory. That was a lot of responsibility and I felt I needed some “training” myself, so as to do the best job possible. Turns out it was only for a brief time period because part-way through my studies, I took the opportunity to join my current employer. I still completed my schooling and the degree, but never got to use it in the way I had envisioned…

My dad worked part-time as a teacher after he retired. He taught a course prepping aspiring millwrights to take their exam, at his local community college. He loved it.

I could see myself doing something similar, when I retire. Whether for a fun or serious course…I do know how to put a course together and deliver it.

And, I do have a career’s worth of knowledge to share.

And, if I created an online course (an introvert’s dream!), I could do it from anywhere I happened to be at the moment.

Hmmmm….

Rock on,

The WB

 

 

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Jumpin’ June

I had a feeling that June was gonna be a bit crazy and it did not disappoint.

First there was the wedding of the son of a good friend, which was delightful and took place on one of those perfect June days that make it such a popular month for nuptials.

Then there was prepping for renovations AND for leaving for Edmonton for my Convocation:

Accepting MBA degrees for both myself and JD.
Accepting MBA degrees for both myself and JD.

It was emotionally draining, to say the least. But I was glad I did so that JD got his recognition. He received a spontaneous standing ovation and many eyes were filled with tears. The dean broke down several times while reading the short biography I prepared about JD. Afterwards so many strangers approached me to say how touched and inspired they were, and to offer me a hug.

After the ceremony, with JD's hood draped over my arm.
After the ceremony, with JD’s hood draped over my arm.

Meanwhile, back at Chez Badass floors were being sanded down and refinished! I came back home on a Sunday evening to my planned interior  and exterior renovations in full swing.

There was nothing to do but put up with the disruption and hit the trails. Almost every night that week I was at the Dundas Conservation Area for the annual 4 Day-Evening Walk (a Dutch tradition brought home to Canada):

Walkers ahead of me got their Dutch on, wearing orange for the Dutch royal family (House of Orange).
Walkers ahead of me got their Dutch on, wearing orange (official colour of the walk)  for the Dutch royal family (House of Orange).

Four 5 km walks earned me my Year 5 participation medal.

Renovation work continued, both inside and out.

Painting the trim around the building
Painting the trim around the building.
New entrance doors and exterior lighting.
New entrance doors, just installed…and new exterior lighting (LED).

Another escape from all the dust and debris and flaking paint, onto the Speed River:

Kayak parking only...hehehe.
Kayak parking only…hehehe.
Back to Black Bridge
Back to Black Bridge
Breakfast on the water. A grain-free Morning Glory muffin.
Breakfast on the water. A grain-free Morning Glory muffin.
Wish Floyd came with a cup holder.
Wish Floyd came with a cup holder. Don’t possess a thigh gap really – more of a tea gap 😉

When indoors, I have been working away at the Badass Budget and have set up another automatic savings account (Emergency Bucks) as a result, and in addition to my pre-existing Travel Bucks account. Lest I fritter away all my discretionary cash on stuff like these lovely Fluevogs:

Is this truly the last pair of shoes I will buy in 2016?
Is this truly the last pair of shoes I will buy in 2016? Check back with me after my upcoming trip to the Netherlands.

And I have placed myself on a shoe moratorium for the remainder of 2016, after having to find new homes for my clothing and shoes during the apartment renovation. I’m not approaching Imelda Marcos territory with respect to shoe collecting but damn…I realized I do have many pairs….and many pairs I cannot or will not wear any longer. So I did a bit of purging in June also.

So badass yet so practical.
So badass yet so practical. Yes, those are skulls on the buckle.

And finally, on the last day of June, my dining room dreams came true as I took delivery of the table I had custom-made, from reclaimed threshing mill floor planks (hemlock):

Dining room furniture: check!
Renovate room and acquire dining room furniture: check!

A bit of mixed feelings on this one, as this room was last in regular use as my mom’s bedroom. But I know she would be very happy that I have a table again at last, for everyone to sit down at.

Party ready for my Canada Day baby's birthday on the 1st.
Party ready for my Canada Day baby’s birthday on the 1st.

Hope everyone had a lovely June and has an exciting July on deck!

Rock on,

The WB

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M is for…

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…MBA

After 4 1/2 long grueling years, I have finally finished all of the course requirements for my Masters in Business Administration degree.

This past Wednesday, April 13, the powers that be at Athabasca University (AU) officially granted me my degree and said parchment is apparently on its way to me right now via snail mail. JD’s degree is coming to me too – shortly after his passing, AU contacted me to let me know that they would be granting his degree posthumously based on his stellar academic performance while he was alive. And to ask me to let them know when I was graduating, so that we could graduate together. Wasn’t that wonderful of them? I was very touched.

The official Convocation is going to be held in Alberta in June. I’ve already booked my flights and my hotel and rental car. To finally meet in person so many of my academic coaches, fellow graduates, and AU staff after interacting in a virtual environment for all these years is exciting, even for an introvert like me!

Before JD finagled me into this I started this journey, I had always thought that a business degree was not for me. I didn’t see myself as a “business person” at all. I saw myself as a scientist and a bit of an artist. I had some pretty strong ideas about what being in business was all about and I was having none of it.

How wrong I was about this.

My MBA studies have led to a deeper understanding of what business really is and (most importantly) can be, and has further shaped who I am and how I interact with this world. Whatever you may read or experience in the world of business, at business school there are strong underpinnings of ethics and corporate social responsibility in every subject area. Time and time again we were presented with examples of companies and business leaders that were not only financially successful but also good, thoughtful corporate citizens.

Unfortunately it is the Enrons and Chainsaw Als of this world that get most of the (bad) press. Because this is more interesting and sells more media than a little story about a little business doing good things?

Life is business and business is life. Think about this because I have, a lot. Read this next paragraph and think of yourself as a corporate entity (which you are because you literally have a body).

You have to come up with a product (yourself) that people are willing to invest in and “buy”, and market it accordingly. You have to decide how you are going to interact in this world with all of your stakeholders: your partners, suppliers, investors, customers, employees, alliances and competitors. You need to pay close attention to your financial data and set goals and targets – short, medium and long-range. You need to manage your resources effectively. You need to conduct yourself in an ethical, responsible and professional manner at all times. Some would disagree with this last statement, especially with their actions if not words but I am telling you YOU NEED TO DO THIS as a responsible, successful human being. It is your duty as a functioning member of society.

When you look at it this way, we are all business people – in the business of being humans. Who wouldn’t benefit from a business degree to help manage You, Inc?

Rock on,

The WB

A is for…

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…several things actually…Adventure, Attitude and being Alone.

Last year on April 1 I wrote about Adventure and this year the Adventure continues! Since last April I have gone through a few things including the palliative care and death of my mother…and a TIA. I have taken up recreational kayaking and I just purchased a second, two-seater kayak. I guess that means I now have a “fleet” of the durn things, hehehe.  I visited Barbados for the first time (and hopefully not the last!). And  I FINALLY completed my MBA studies. I recently started a new challenge – to hike the 885 Km Bruce Trail, section by section, in its entirety. Wonder what I will be writing about at this time next year?

Every year has 365 days, and those days pass whether we like it or not. Some people don’t like looking back but I find it very useful and gratifying…especially when I see that things I talked and dreamed about, like the Bruce Trail quest, are actually coming to pass.

Life is full of changes and surprises, not all welcomed. However the one thing – the only thing – we have complete control over is our attitude about life. And to be present for what life throws at us. Taking my mother into my home for the last 3 months of her life, to care for her and to give her the death at home she wanted, was not easy but I couldn’t imagine not doing it. It was an incredible experience to be present for.  I was blessed to become reacquainted with my aunt and my 2 sisters as when they came to live with me and help out during this time. The special quiet times with my mother as her life wound down were also a gift and joy to all of us.

So now, everyone is back to their real lives, my mother is gone, and I am alone once again. At first my home seemed so much larger and emptier than it has ever been. Now I treasure my solitude once again. I understand that a lot of people can’t bear to be alone. That has never been my experience. I am often lonelier in a group than I have ever been by myself.

Feel free to comment with your thoughts about adventure, attitude or being alone. I look forward to reading them!

Rock on,

The WB

 

I had a TIA

Happy Leap Year Day everyone! Yesterday I electronically submitted my very last assignment of my very last course for my MBA studies. I. AM. DONE.

My next post on ye olde blogge was supposed to have been a light piece about my recent trip to Barbados. Now instead, there is this:

On the morning of February 12th I got up early (5:50 am) and thought “Great, I’ll have time to do some homework before work!” So I got myself a drink (lemon juice and water, in case you are interested) and sat down in front of my laptop to log on to the school’s discussion site. I started scrolling through my classmates’ posts when I noticed my right hand was not responding to my brain’s requests for action. Then I noticed my right leg was not operational either. I remained seated as I didn’t want to fall while testing out if I could still walk. I picked up my right hand with my left and let it drop to my side, wondering if maybe I had pinched a nerve? Nothing. I picked it up again with my left hand and put it back on the desktop. Within a couple of minutes of all of this starting, I regained use of both my right arm and leg. I immediately walked to the bathroom to check out my face in the mirror. No right-side droopiness…just the normal symmetrical droopiness I see every morning. 🙂

I really wanted to ignore this whole episode and get back to my busy day but that would be the “denial” thing to do…and I had made a vow to relinquish my Cleopatra’s crown quite a while ago. So I called Telehealth Ontario, the free helpline staffed by nurses. The nurse I spoke to told me I needed to go to the Emergency department immediately, and that I could not drive myself. Great. I called my son,  got dressed and off we went.

Blood work, ECG, Doppler and CT scan later…nothing was found other than elevated blood pressure and a couple of areas of poor blood flow in the brain (but no damage). The CT scan diagnosis was later refuted by a doc at the Secondary Stroke Prevention Clinic who  pronounced my brain completely normal and healthy, but let’s err on the side of caution and say the first doc called it correctly.

Nothing has happened to me since that couple of moments on that Friday morning. And everything has happened. I am now on medication to lower my blood pressure and cholesterol, and thin my blood. I don’t think I need to be on the latter two of these drugs.  I think the docs are trained by the drug companies to be pill dispensers. But for now  I am being a good girl and taking them all.

I bought a home blood pressure monitor so I can see if I am making a difference as I change my life (112/86 this a.m.).

I have to go to the cardiac clinic this morning to be fitted with a Holter monitor for wear for the next 28 days.

I have to spend a night in a sleep lab (yet to be scheduled).

I signed up for meditation classes and am going to talk to a counsellor specializing in grief and stress.

I plan to lose a significant amount of weight and increase my stamina and muscle mass.

YES. I see this as a LIFE. CHANGING. EXPERIENCE. (Cue dramatic music…Also sprach Zarathustra would be appropriate.)

My plan is to get off of all of these drugs ASAP by making the appropriate changes. Or, to accept graciously (huh?!) that I need to stay on them if that’s how things turn out.

My mantra for getting through tough times has always been “blinders on; full speed ahead; I’ll deal with the wreckage later”. Well, the time to deal with the wreckage is NOW, and the wreckage is apparently ME.

Looking back, over the past 4 years, I have:

  • Had to deal with my husband’s worsening OCD and then his illness and death due to lung cancer
  • Had to deal with his complicated estate
  • Experienced the loss of my mother due to non-Hodgkins Lymphoma and am currently dealing with her estate
  • Experienced the loss of my father-in-law due to old age
  • Experienced the loss of my dog due to old age
  • Spent a year cleaning up both house and rental property (20 years of husband’s hoarding = seven 14-yard dumpsters filled with trash, hundreds of bags of garbage put to the curb and I lost count of all the items recycled or donated or given away)
  • Sold my house and used proceeds to clear up husband’s debt
  • Moved into rental property and became a landlord
  • Undertook the following renovations at the building where I now live and act as landlord: plumbing repairs, electrical upgrade, solar project, new boiler system, new air conditioning systems, new roof, new kitchen, new bathroom…and there are still many more projects to undertake
  • Trained for and completed at least 2 half-marathons
  • Finally completed my MBA!!!

Yeah, I guess you could say it’s been a lot. You could say I have been experiencing undue stress.  I guess you could say I am lucky to have gotten off with a warning in the form of a TIA.

I really do feel blessed on this Leap Year Day 2016.

Blessed to live in a country where access to medical treatment is free, and is the least stressful thing about being unwell.

Blessed to have had the support of family and friends while going through all of the above.

Blessed to yet have the opportunity to make changes to improve my health…

Rock on,

The WB

 

Don’t let the door hit your ass on the way out, 2015!

Ooooh Lordy. Where to begin?

Since my last post about the summer of 2015 so much has changed.

As I was starting what I thought was my last MBA course, my mom’s health and home situation began to deteriorate quickly. Mom had been dealing with Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma for 15 years and she made the decision in August to stop treatment as it was no longer working – only traumatizing her body further. My 86 year-old step-dad wasn’t able to provide the care Mom needed as her health and abilities to look after herself (and him) became compromised so I did the only thing I knew how to make the best out of a terrible situation – I offered to look after Mom at my house till the disease ran its course.

Thankfully, everyone, including my step-dad, was in agreement that this was the course to be followed and Mom’s (now palliative) care was transferred, along with some furniture and belongings, from her condo to my house.

I realized that continuing on with the double credit intensive course (including a week away in residence) to complete my masters degree was impossible with what was going on at home. Arrangements were made to drop this course and take instead 2 single credit courses for completion of degree requirements. (So now I am still graduating in June, but remain in school until the end of February.)

After consultations with my two sisters about Mom coming to live with me it was decided that one of my sisters (working, with a company that would top up the leave payments) would take compassionate leave initially to stay with me and Mom so I could continue working, and the other (non-working, living across the country) would fly in when needed.

The next 3 months became one of the most wonderful, terrible times of my life. Wonderful in that my home became what I had envisioned it to be – the hub of family life. It was a warm, roomy space for others to gather to celebrate my mom and her life as it slowly drained out of her. Wonderful in that for the first time since August 1980 all of my siblings and I were under one roof again, this time really getting to know each other as adults. Wonderful in that I had many hours to spend in my mother’s company, and many opportunities to tell and show her how much she was loved and appreciated. Wonderful in that I was able to visit with and  accommodate my aunt from the Netherlands, who came over to spend 3 weeks with her eldest sister. Wonderful in that we were able to give my mother so much peace and happiness in the final months, weeks, and days of her life.

Well, as to the terrible part – do I really need to explain how terrible it is to see your mother’s life dwindle inevitably down? Week by week, day by day and later hour by hour – from an active, vibrant woman to one who relies on a cane, then a wheelchair and walker, then finally to be completely immobilized. One whose world shrunk from her community to her home, then to my home, then to just a hospital bed in one room in that home.

Mom passed away in the wee hours of December 18th. She did not fear her death, as the life she was living was no longer any life at all. Death HAD to be a better alternative. Mom got her wishes – that she die at home, and that her death would not interfere with the plans of Mizz J and I to attend a wedding in Barbados on January 2nd (booked 9 months ago, with insurance…just in case)….that was so “Mom” – putting others’ agendas ahead of her own, even to the end!

And so ended this year, 2015, of loss for me and my family. Starting with my dog of almost 15 years, in January; then my father-in-law in February; my best friend’s mother in March; and finally my own mother in December.

So glad to see this year come to an end. 2016, if you are listening, I am asking for the shadow of death to avoid me and mine for a change, for a respite (however brief) from loss, and for a year of growth and celebration instead. Thanks in advance!

Rock on,

The WB

 

 

Hello, it’s me. Summer of 2015 Edition.

This post is brought to you by sheer determination to get something, anything, written on this here blog before summer is over. OK, I know that technically speaking, there are still a few weeks of summer left. But who among us is that technical? We all “know” that Labour Day Weekend and the start of school (kindergarten to high school) is REALLY the end of summer.

Anywhoodle…

Since the last post in early May, I have lived through a kitchen/bath/laundry/roof renovation

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New kitchen.

and solar panel installation, helped empty out my late father-in-law’s house to prep it for sale, helped arrange a wedding in my building for my lovely sister and new sister-in-law,

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Typical family gathering. Inevitable descent into silliness. At Carol and Cathy’s wedding.

and completed my second-to-last MBA course. Oh yeah, and I completed another half-marathon race,

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Niagara Fall’s Women’s Half Marathon. Just before starting out.

and took in a few rock concerts.

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Rush at the Air Canada Centre.
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Cheap Trick and Peter Frampton at the Molson Canadian Amphitheater.
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Jane’s Addiction. BIG Music Fest, Kitchener.

This took me to the end of July-ish.  I decided August was to be dedicated to more relaxing pursuits…such as spending time at various beaches and kayaking on the river a few steps from my building. This plan needed a kayak in order to actually happen:

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I christen thee Pink Floyd.

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I was also able to fit in a visit to the Canadian National Exhibition again, for the first time in practically a decade.

Mizz J eating a chicken waffle on a stick. Carnival food – usually disappointing and this was no exception.

Can’t complain about this summer. Got a lot done, and a lot of it was pure fun. The way summers should be.

Rock on,

The WB

E is for…

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…Early Mornings

I have, for most of my life, been a morning person. Happily alert with first light and filled with tremendous energy – busy planning what to achieve during the day before my feet hit the bedroom floor. Energy levels waning as the day moves towards night – grateful to slow down and curl up in a chair with some knitting and TV, or a book at day’s end.

My husband was a bit of night owl. He also possessed tremendous will  and strength to power past his body’s signals for rest. All-nighters were something he could do with apparent ease; something I paid dearly for, even days later.

For several years, JD maintained 2 jobs, working day and night. During this time he snatched sleep an hour here and there, and tried to pay off his sleep debt on days off. It was an unhappy period but nothing I said made any difference. He was a man with a mission and this is what he thought he had to do to make things better.

Even when he was down to only 1 job, he continued to cheat himself of sleep as he powered through assignments in his quest for an MBA. I, on the other hand, reached that point in every late night where I couldn’t give a damn about the assignment anymore – whatever was done was good enough to submit – my MBA brain shut off and all I cared about was the bed I swore I could hear beseeching me from up the stairs.

After the diagnosis, we talked about whether the repeated and long-term stressing of his body in this way had suppressed his immune system, allowing that first cancerous cell to take root and flourish. We couldn’t come up with another valid reason for such a healthy, never-smoker to get lung cancer.

When JD was alive, I tried to accommodate his sleep patterns, and stayed up much later than my body would have liked. This made my mornings groggy and unpleasant, and I needed an alarm clock (with snooze function!) to wake me on work days.

Since I have been widowed, I no longer even need a clock in the bedroom. I go to sleep when I want and rise refreshed, usually in advance of when I need to. I have yet to oversleep, and occasionally find myself, as I did this morning, awake and ready to go hours ahead of “schedule”.

I love my early mornings again, but not the reason for the change.

The WB

Weekend Blues

This is the last Tagxedo for a while, I promise (but isn’t it cute with the lightning bolt shape and all? So apropos for Hete Bliksem):

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Makes me want to redo the whole blog so I can incorporate this into the header somehow (which I can’t do well with this blog template).  But that will have to wait for another time.

The weather here this weekend is absolutely perfect. No humidity, temps in the mid-20s, just the odd little cloud in the sky.But enjoying the weather will have to wait for another time.

I have a 2000 word paper due Sunday night at midnight, Alberta time. Which means I have till 2 am Ontario time. (Yay?).

Words written so far: 0

Words written in my head so far: about 173.

It’s times like these that I really question why I thought going back to school was a good idea. I mean, I already have a great job. It’s not like I couldn’t find something else (cheaper, less intense, and without the pressure of assignment deadlines, cheaper, yet still intellectually stimulating…did I mention cheaper?) to occupy my mind.

Then those 2 little words pop into my mind: career insurance. Oh yeah, that.

I flash back to the recent histories of some of my friends (who thought they were “set” for life, at their work, their “dream” jobs): passed over for promotion, or demoted with a change in upper management, or their position vanishes entirely, with a change in company direction.

Nothing in  life is certain. So back to the books I go!

I have promised myself that if I make good progress, I will take a short break to go for a walk in the glorious outside, to pick up something for lunch.

So with that rewarding thought, I bid you adieu. And please enjoy your weekend, so I may live vicariously through you!

Dems Fightin’ Words…and My New Blingernails!

After finding “Count on Me” and falling completely in love with that Nicole by OPI polish, I decided I must head back to WalMart and see if there were any more cool colours that I was missing out on.

I looked at the labels on the rack and saw these words. Best Pink Ever.

Huh, I thought. That’s a pretty bold statement. I’m pretty sure I already have the best pink nail polish in the world already at home, purchased several years before! But I was intrigued, and knew I had to try it out.

Then I saw the bottle. Dark purple with orangey glitter. Immediately I felt kinda deflated. Somebody had put the wrong polish in the rack, and I would probably never know what the Best Pink Ever actually looked like. Then I picked up the bottle to see what it WAS called.

Best Pink Ever.

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Here’s what the polish looks like in the bottle:

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And here’s what it looks like on my fresh pedi (thanks Tracy!):

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I used to think OPI’s Not-So-Bora-Bora-ing Pink was the best pink ever, but I just may have to change my mind. Best. Pink. Ever. OK, it’s definitely a contender for the crown. I am liking it more day by day.

Now, without reservation, I can say that Kiss Nail Dress nail stickers are the most fun nail things ever. Peel and stick nail art. I can’t believe how much fun they are. Plus quick and easy to apply.  I can’t stop looking at my blinged up fingers:

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I am easily amused, as you can see. Of course, all of this fun is a pleasant distraction from schoolwork. I will pay for this, but so far, at about $0.35 per nail, it’s worth the price. I love my new blingernails! (Good name for a competitor product….guess I’m still wearing my MBA student hat after all).